Some people think it’s really hard to find the right person. They think that it takes years and years of searching and angst to meet one other human being on this vast planet who is suitable for them.
It certainly can be challenging to find the right person, but it’s not impossible. Like all things worth having, it can require work, perseverance and a positive attitude, but it’s totally possible.
Chances are that it’s more than fate keeping this person out of your life and there are steps you can take to improve your situation. Here are some common reasons why you haven’t met the right person yet.
Reason #1, you’ve given up. You want it to “just happen” and you’re not doing anything to help it along. I can sympathize. Sometimes it feels like a lot of work or you need a break or you’re just tired. This is totally understandable.
If you need a break, take one and then get back to going for what you want in life. It’s not likely to just show up out of nowhere, so acknowledge that you’re taking a break or not trying at the moment.
Don’t give up though. When break time is over, start reaching for your dreams again.
The reason you have dreams is so that you can grow as a human being through the pursuit and attainment of those dreams. Giving up isn’t on the menu.
Reason #2, you’re too busy with the wrong person. It’s possible to burn years of your life on unfulfilling relationships that go nowhere, come out totally jaded and take another year or more just to lick your wounds only to go back to the same situation or worse.
If you have a history of going for the wrong types of people or taking extended breaks from dating because you’ve been devastated, it’s time to figure out what’s going on. It’s not about meeting the wrong people, it’s about inviting them into your life and allowing them to stay there.
Resolve to create a better situation for yourself today.
Reason #3, you’re not the right person (yet). This may be the most common reason of all. In order to have the right person in your life, you need to be the right person.
Make it your goal to be the kind of person who would attract the person you want to date. No one is going to come along and make your life all the things that you wish it could be. When you meet someone special, you will still be you, only now you will have a significant other.
Your new love will tend to magnify whatever is going on with you, so make sure that what is going on with you is good. If you aren’t happy, get happy. If you don’t love yourself, start now. If you don’t, meeting someone isn’t going to change anything.
You may have noticed that the reasons you haven’t met the right person yet all come down to you. This is fantastic news because it means that you can do something about it.
You can take steps right now to have the love you want in your life. Resolve to put some effort into this area of your life, say goodbye to anyone or anything that is keeping you from having what you want and be the best you that you can be today. These things will go a long way toward making sure the right person crosses your path.
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