Sometimes I get some pushback when I recommend that women (nicely) turn down requests for last-minute dates.

It seems like playing games, maybe a bit princess-y and what’s the harm in just saying yes?

Especially if you weren’t doing anything anyway and you’d really like to see him.

But saying yes is winning the battle and losing the war.

Here’s why:

Accepting a last minute date rewards him for not bothering to plan dates with you.

You’re literally training him to do this.

Especially if it’s a first date.

People treat you the way you teach them to treat you.

You’re teaching him not to respect your time. 

You’re not a priority to a man who does this and you want to be a priority.

He’ll see you as an option.

Someone he can hit up for a date when he doesn’t have anything better to do. 

This doesn’t position you as a high-value woman.

And you are a high-value woman.

The kind of woman a guy who has his act together and has something to offer wants to date isn’t sitting around bored waiting for a guy to order her up like a pizza.

She’s amazing and has plenty of things to do.

Even if it’s taking care of herself, reading a book, or taking a bath.

And finally, it’s sooooo nice to go on a date that’s been planned in advance by a man who’s excited about you.

Why would you ever want to deprive yourself of this experience?

If a man reaches out for a last-minute date, consider politely declining and telling him you’re available in the next few days.

You’d love to meet him then.

If he likes you, he’ll have no trouble scheduling a date in advance with you.

It’s really not that hard and most men really are capable of reading calendars and making plans.

To learn more, check out this video!

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