It’s so romantic to believe that you have a soul mate, that there is an amazing person out there who is perfect for you and that all you need to do is meet him.
Where is he though?
If you’re past a certain age, you may have despaired whether you would ever actually meet this person. You may have tried scouring the internet, the bars or singles events searching for him.
You may hope that you will meet him naturally, at the perfect time. This sounds wonderfully romantic, and Hollywood would have us believe that this is the way it’s supposed to be.
Is that really true? How many people does this actually happen to? If you hold out for a soul mate, you could be missing a lot of opportunities to be with someone real and have love now.
The truth is, there are many people that you could be very happy with, none of them are perfect and the sooner you get real the sooner you will find love.
You have many possible soul mates. There are seven billion people on this planet. Many of these people could be a great match for you. Be open to the possibilities.
The idea that there is only one person for you is unrealistic and destructive to your love life. I’m not suggesting that you lower your standards or settle, but that you give yourself a real chance at love by getting real with yourself.
There is not only one perfect person for you, the world is full of possibilities. Be open to them.
There are no perfect people. When you meet someone new and don’t instantly get bowled over by a tidal wave of love, it doesn’t mean that he can’t be the One. Sometimes love blooms slowly. Most good things take time to build.
Think about the last three people you felt great chemistry with right away. How did those relationships go? Where are those men now? Do you really need to go down that road again? If you think that someone is perfect, it means that you don’t know him very well yet.
Your ideal mate is someone who shares your relationship goals, treats you well, and is available to have a relationship with you now. This may not be the guy you see across a crowded room who makes you swoon, but who cares? Swooning is overrated.
Don’t you want someone who adores you? I certainly hope so. If you are willing to put the practical things first and allow chemistry to build over time, you are much more likely to have the love you want in your life.
Sometimes, the idea of having a soul mate is merely an excuse not to participate in your own life. It is very tempting to believe that we shouldn’t have to put any effort into having a great love life.
The soul mate myth absolves you of responsibility for spending years alone because you simply haven’t met him yet. Don’t fall for it. You deserve more. Get real and reach for the love you deserve today.
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