I’m no different than any other mom in the fact that I adore my children. Right or wrong, through thick and thin, period.
A few years ago, my son fell in love with a woman who came from another country and was completely smitten with her. She held him at bay, was very conservative, and wasn’t sure she wanted to get involved.
Despite her reluctance, he was determined to win her. He bought her things, drove her places, and was completely devoted to her, yet she would never commit to him. He wanted to take the relationship to the next level. He was absolutely crazy about her.
Finally, she told him that if he’d fly to her home country alone to meet her parents and they approved of him, that she would consider a serious relationship with him. Undeterred, he purchased a plane ticket and off he went.
As his mother, I was horrified. How could he do this? He chose to take time off from work to travel across the planet to meet perfect strangers for a woman who wouldn’t even be joining him? What on earth was he thinking?
He went anyway and had a good time. Her parents adored him. He returned home safely. We met a few days later and he was heartbroken. Despite his journey, his commitment, and all his effort, she was still not willing to go to the next level.
There are few things worse than seeing your child go through heartbreak. I listened to him, gave him a hug, and then told him what he least wanted to hear.
He had to move on if he was serious about sharing his life with someone.
He soon did just that.
He’s now married to a lovely woman and has a beautiful baby son. They recently bought a home and they’re very happy together. I couldn’t be happier for them.
My son could have chosen to be bitter and give up on his dream. He didn’t. He could have used his disappointment as an excuse to stop trying. He didn’t. He could have complained about his ex to everyone and used her poor treatment of him as a reason not to trust anyone. He didn’t.
Now he’s with the love of his life because he held fast to his dream and did what was necessary to make it happen.
What about you?
Are you willing to let go of your past heartaches and move on?
We all face heartbreak sooner or later. When your turn comes, will you believe in love in spite of the disappointments you’ve faced? Will you believe in the good, have faith and press on? I hope you will. Your future happiness depends on it.
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