This might sound crazy, but I bought my wedding dress 15 years before my actual wedding.
I was going through an “act as if” phase.
Little did I know how long it would take or the adventures that awaited me.
Back in the early 2000’s, I was a stressed out single mom and my daughter worked at a bridal shop.
It was on my way home from work and I would often stop by to say hi to her.
I’m a girly girl and the allure of all those beautiful gowns was irresistible.
I’d never worn one before then.
I married my first husband in my 8th grade graduation dress as a teenager and that wedding was far short of fabulous.
So it was absolutely intoxicating to prance around a bridal shop in gorgeous wedding gowns after a tough day at the office before going home to the chaos that awaited me there as a single mom of 4.
Life didn’t offer me many escapes from my crushing responsibilities, but this was one of them.
When I tried on this gown, it was “The One”.
I got tears in my eyes and I had to have it.
Even though I hadn’t had a date in years and was nursing a huge crush on a guy at work who didn’t want anything to do with me.
A girl can dream.
So I plunked down my credit card and brought it home.
The years went by.
The kids grew up.
I moved a few times and it always came with me.
And then I was launching my business and lost my job.
The unemployment was running out and I was dead broke and terrified.
The bills were piling up and I was packing up my apartment to move in with my son.
I was purging everything except for my most prized possessions which amounted to a handful of items that I planned to store in my grandma’s basement.
I couldn’t believe that my life had come to this and I was absolutely devastated.
I pulled the dress out of the closet and wondered why I’d held onto it for so long.
It seemed laughable.
So I snapped a few pictures of it and put it on Craigslist.
I figured I could use a few bucks.
But no one bought it!
So it came to my son’s house with me.
And then I dragged it with me when I moved to my great aunt’s to be her live-in caregiver.
I felt increasingly silly each time I moved this dress, but I didn’t know what else to do with it.
It seemed more unlikely than ever that I’d find love at this point in my life.
Especially since I didn’t even have my own place or a “real job”.
But on New Year’s Day of 2017, my husband and I matched on Tinder.
We fell in love quickly and we knew we were right for each other, so that October, I finally got to be a bride!
I truly believe that the reason I was finally successful is because I never gave up, even though things looked terrible.
I always kept learning as much as I could about dating, showing up on Tinder and going on dates.
I worked with coaches, read books, journaled and tried new things.
It was 100% worth the effort I put in to walk down the aisle in that dress to marry the love of my life.
I’m so glad that no one bought it and I finally got to wear it after all.
I can teach you how to create these results for yourself.
No matter what your life looks like now or how many disappointments you’ve faced.
I’ve distilled the process I used into practical steps that are easy to implement.
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