self care

January 23, 2019

Love Yourself

I can see you rolling your eyes! I used to get so annoyed about this topic when I was single. I always believed that I loved myself. I bought myself nice clothes, got my hair and nails done, and went on nice trips. I thought I had this nailed. I didn’t have a real understanding of what it meant to love myself though. I had nice clothes but I put up with the most ridiculous treatment from the men I dated. I worked long hours and couldn’t set appropriate boundaries to save my life. I never understood that being able to love myself would bring me closer to what I wanted most in life, true love. I finally learned how to love myself though, and I’m convinced that doing so is essential if you want to have a good relationship. These suggestions can help you have a much better relationship […]
May 29, 2019

Dating Can Prepare You for a Relationship

Have you been single for an extended period of time? Want to know what can be beneficial to your personal growth and future relationships? Dating. Yes, dating can be one of the best tools for personal growth while you’re single. Why? Because it prepares you to be in a relationship by the very act of putting yourself out there and meeting new people. Dating also helps you to look into your own heart and to be honest with yourself and others about what you really want in a relationship. Finally, dating helps refine your communication skills because you’ll need to communicate with the men you’re seeing. Doing all of these things takes a lot of courage and self-awareness. It’s much easier to hang out with your friends, go to the gym, or work extra hours, but those things won’t help you find the love of your life. Dating will. To […]
October 9, 2019

Is Self Care Keeping You Single?

So many women get discouraged with dating and say they need to take a break. I understand completely! Dating can be brutal, especially if you’re just winging it and hoping for the best. But the “take a break” strategy is totally ineffective. Think about it, do you take a break from the gym and hope you’ll be in better shape in a few months? No! The mere passage of time does nothing to change the results you’re going to get. If you want a different result, you need to learn how to make it happen. So, what do you really want from dating? How will you use your time away from the dating scene to learn how to get what you want? What will you do differently next time? This is the ultimate self-care, because it’s having your own back instead of checking out on yourself. It’s hard, but it’s […]
October 16, 2019

Shouldn’t I Be Able to Figure This Out on My Own?

You’re smart and successful. You’ve done so many things that have been challenging. On your own thank you very much! Why would you need help with something as basic as finding love? Shouldn’t that just happen? Except that it hasn’t yet. You’ve been waiting for years. You’ve paid your dues, tried online dating, speed dating, duty dating, not dating. You’ve probably had your heart broken too. Or spent years in a relationship (or three) that went nowhere. What you haven’t done is figured it out on your own. It’s ok to ask for help. People hire others to help them all the time. You probably have too. Doctors, attorneys, accountants, the guy who fixed your roof. You were happy to have access to their expertise and they helped you solve real problems. Doing things on your own (when they’re not working) is one of the most expensive and time-consuming ways […]
October 23, 2019

Should You Listen to Your Gut?

Listening to your gut can be extremely valuable at times. Other times, not so much. Consider this: Your life is the result of what you’ve been thinking and doing up until now. There are plenty of things in your life that are working very well. You have a place to live, food to eat, clean drinking water, probably even friends and family who love you. Then there are the things you want to change. You’ll need to do different things if you want change, because what you’re doing now is giving you what you have now. If you want something new, you need to do new things, live a new way. You can bring your gut with you, and not let it run the show. You can say, “Hey, I hear you gut, and we’re going to try this new thing now.” If you stick with this process, your gut […]