relationships

July 27, 2015

Are you really OK with casual sex?

It’s the morning after you’ve slept with a new man for the first time. How long does it take you to check your phone? If you’re like most women, you’re checking the thing all day for his call or text. Then there’s the next day, and the next. The sinking feeling starts in the pit of your stomach. You go from surprised to sad to angry to wondering why the hell you care. Didn’t you just meet this guy? It’s common for women to feel like they should be OK with no-strings sex or “friends with benefits”. Casual sex is considered socially acceptable and even revered in some circles. It seems like everyone’s hooking up and we should be too. We feel like we should be able to date like men, but fact is that we are not men. We are wired differently than they are and with few exceptions, we […]
August 3, 2015

What to do when you hate dating

You know you need to date. You want to find the right guy so you’re out there slogging it out. Sometimes it seems like you’re going on job interviews with martinis, but you do it. You come home from the office, touch up your makeup, head out, meet new guy. Wash, rinse, repeat. Sometimes you hear from him again, sometimes you don’t. Sometimes there’s a connection, many times there isn’t. What should you do when you hate dating? I recommend three things; screen your dates, be real, and understand that this is part of your journey. First of all, screen your dates. Check out more than just his photos and his job description. Does he say anything you can relate to? Has he sent you a decent email or a one-sentence generic note that could have been sent to anyone on the site? Is he putting in any effort to […]
August 10, 2015

Who is Mr. Right?

So you’ve decided that it’s time to get serious about finding your Mr. Right. You’re done with dating the bad boys, you’re over the ex, and the stars have aligned. You even have some fantastic outfits to wear on dates. You’re finally ready for Mr. Right and you’d like to work toward meeting him. Great! Now what? It’s a big world out there and you have to narrow your search somehow. It’s a lot easier to find something if you know what it is. Start by writing your big list, narrow it down to five non-negotiables and consider the 80/20 rule. The first thing to do is get out some paper and write down all the qualities you’d like for him to have. Even if you’ve done this before, do it again and don’t hold back. Put it all down on paper and don’t worry about judging it. Do you […]
August 17, 2015

How to help Mr. Right find you

You’d really like to find your Mr. Right. You’ve been looking for a while. Where is he anyway? You’re starting to feel a bit impatient and wondering if he’s ever going to show up. It’d be great if he sauntered up to you the next time you’re out with the girls, but don’t be discouraged if that doesn’t happen. Many times, finding the right guy takes a bit more effort than just showing up in public places and looking good. If you’re ready to meet someone and it’s not happening naturally, it’s time to give nature a helping hand. The three best ways to meet a quality man are to create an online profile, interact with others at social events, and to be friendly when going about your life. Online dating is huge. Numbers don’t lie. A recent study said that over one third of marriages began with an online […]
August 24, 2015

How to be relationship-ready

It’s time to find Mr. Right. You’re ready and waiting. You know what you’re looking for, you’ve got your profile online and you’re rocking singles events. What more can you do? Be the kind of person the man you are looking for would like to date. It only makes sense for you to date someone who would be a good fit for you. Most of us like to aim high and who can blame us? We all like to think we’re better than average and look good for our age. Even if these things are true, it’s easy to want someone who’s a bit out of our league and pass on perfectly good candidates because we think we can do better. If you’re not being pursued by the kind of guy you want to date, you may need to make some adjustments. A good place to begin is to be […]