relationship help

March 27, 2019

Stop Texting and Meet Him Already

Do you often match with a new guy online or an app and then text each other for weeks on end? If so, you need to stop texting and meet him already! If you’re serious about getting into a real relationship, it pays to use your time and emotional energy wisely. You simply can’t afford to invest weeks (or longer) in back and forth texting with men you’re not meeting. Instead, learn how to turn the text messages into phone conversations. Once you’ve spoken on the phone once or twice, you can schedule a time to meet in person in the reasonably near future. I promise that using this one tip will help you avoid so many undesirable situations, such as ending up with guys who are; married, dating tons of other women, catfishing, too busy with their jobs, kids, travel, video games, whatever, to have a real relationship with […]
April 3, 2019

Is Your Right Guy Out There?

How romantic is it to believe that the perfect guy for you is out there and that when the time is right, you’ll meet him? All the chick flicks tell us that this how it is, or at least, how it should be. I believed that myth for almost a decade. I truly thought that if I waited, without doing much of anything else, the right guy would simply turn up and everything would be fantastic. For most of us, it just doesn’t work that way. It’s much more likely that believing those things will end up keeping you single for much longer than you would be if you were more proactive. After spending nearly a decade waiting, I spent another few years figuring out how to make my dream of love happen. That was much more effective. You don’t need to burn as much time on this as I […]
April 17, 2019

What To Do If You’re Hurting

Are you hurting right now? Believe me, I’ve shed many tears over being dumped, ghosted, and led on. These things hurt! If you’re suffering today, I’m sending you the biggest hugs and my heart truly goes out to you. Here are some things you can do to learn everything possible from this experience so that you can minimize your chances of being in this situation again. First, please treat yourself with compassion. Don’t add to your pain by being hard on yourself. Give yourself the same kindness that you’d give to your beloved daughter or niece. Once you’ve done that, ask yourself these questions: What were the choices you made that resulted in the situation you’re in now? Did you choose to date a man that was unavailable? Were you hoping that something would change or improve if you continued to date him? Did you see a red flag that […]
April 24, 2019

When He Upsets You

We all get upset with our significant other from time to time. It’s impossible to go through life with someone and be on the same page about absolutely everything, but it’s still tough when these things come up. So, what should you do about it? First, think about what he’s done. Are you taking something personally that isn’t about you? You’re absolutely entitled to have your feelings, but what are you making his behavior mean to you? Can you separate the action he took from your feelings about it? For example, if he was late and you feel that it was disrespectful to you, stop and think about what you’re making this event mean. Does it mean that he’s disrespectful? Does it mean that he doesn’t care about you? Does it have to mean that? Could it mean something else? Could it not mean anything? If he does something that […]
May 1, 2019

Are You Special?

When I was single, I used to think that I was special, and not in a good way! I was absolutely certain that I was somehow incapable of ever having love in my life and that there was nothing I could do about it. Can you relate? Do you ever think that other people can have love and that they can figure it out but for some reason, it just may not be possible for you? If this describes you, take heart. I can assure you that it’s simply not true. After over a decade of being single, I finally found a wonderful man and you can too! It doesn’t have to take that long or be that hard. Finding love is not some mystical thing that visits you from the Gods. There are many things you can do to find love. Practical, do-able, figure-out-able things. To learn more, check […]