relationship adviice

October 30, 2014

Three keys to finding true love

Finding love is possible for you It is more than just possible, it is certain if you will do what it takes to create it. The problem is that most of us don’t believe that we should have to create it, it should just show up. I’m going to challenge that belief. Seriously, why should it just show up? What else worth having has ever just landed on your doorstep with no effort whatsoever and taken zero effort to maintain? Not your education, career, financial security, or excellent health and fitness. You worked for those things. You figured out what you needed to do in order to get the results you wanted. You can do that with love too. If you decide exactly what you want, believe that you can have it and commit to achieving your desired outcome, you will be successful. What do you really want? If Cupid […]
September 19, 2018

The Reason You’re Single

Could you be wrong about the reason you’re single? If you’ve been on your own for a long time, you probably have a lot of ideas about why you’re single. I know I did! Perhaps you think that men are shallow or intimidated by a smart, successful woman like you. Maybe you’re convinced that your size, age, or kids are keeping you alone. Ideas like this can keep you from putting yourself out there and making an attempt to find love. I’d like to challenge you to test them out and see if they’re true. Kind of like a dating science experiment if you will. Look at other women around you. Not everyone who is happily paired up is a size 2 or a supermodel. Many happily married women are just as brilliant and successful as you are. Take some time to study what other women who are in love and […]
September 26, 2018

What’s Been Holding You Back from Finding Love

Do you feel that something’s been holding you back from finding love? I have SO been there. I know what it’s like to be single for years on end and feel incredibly frustrated at the apparent lack of good men. Consider that you have more influence on this situation than you think you do, and it starts in your very own mind. Here’s how: You LOVE being right. About everything. It’s OK, so do I. Just ask my husband how much I love to be right, he’ll tell you! That’s just how our brains are wired – we all love being right. But your desire to be right could be costing you a lot. It could be costing you the opportunity to have love in your life. When you have a belief, your brain works to find evidence to prove it’s true. In doing this, you will actually create the […]
November 20, 2019

Do You Think Finding Love is Too Much Work?

How do you feel about people who half-ass it? The guy or girl at work who’s just coasting? The checkout person who doesn’t even bother to greet you? Probably not great. We all respect people who go all in and do the best they can. Those people inspire us. But let’s face it, it’s easier to “phone it in” sometimes. I understand (and share) the temptation to do this, but the amazing life you want does not lie at the other end of checking out. What could you achieve if you went all in on your dream? Actually pulled out all the stops and did your very best to find the love you want? What would happen if you brought your “A game” to your search for love? Do you think you’d have better results if you posted great pictures, an amazing profile, and spent time on the site/app consistently? […]