relationship advice

November 16, 2014

Great Men Commit

I was poking around on Pinterest recently and saw a very inspiring article about a Vietnam veteran who had recently passed away. He had flown his helicopter into enemy territory repeatedly against orders to rescue critically wounded soldiers. Many young servicemen who would have died on the field of battle that day got to go home to their families because of him. That man was committed. The pages of history, and modern websites as it turns out, are filled with inspiring stories of great men. Truly, they are everywhere if you look. There are the famous ones, like Martin Luther King, Abraham Lincoln, and The Dalai Lama. There are the every-day ones, like my grandfather who went to work every day, paid his bills and loved his family. There are great men everywhere that you have never heard of and have never met, from world leaders to ambulance drivers. What […]
January 14, 2015

Upgrade your look – upgrade your life!

Are you pumped up and excited about beginning a new year? Are you motivated and ready to upgrade your life? Fantastic! Last time, I wrote about the importance of cultivating a growth mindset and being determined. Now I will cover specific things you can do to begin moving toward your goals. I’ll cover outer work in this newsletter and inner work in the next one. It’s time to step up to the plate and back that motivation up with consistent actions in order to get results. So let’s start with the outside work. Your outer appearance is the first thing everyone sees. The outside counts, a lot! It is your very own advertisement to other members of the human race, your first chance to show people who you are. If you would like to attract more dates, it helps to look good. If you know that your appearance could use […]
January 19, 2015

How to reboot your love life

I hope you’re enjoying the new year so far and looking and feeling your best. A new look can do wonders for your outlook on life, but it’s important not to stop there. Inner work is just as important, but people are tempted to skip it because it’s less tangible and they aren’t sure what to do or where to begin. It’s much easier to go get your nails done than it is to upgrade your unconscious beliefs so that you can have a better love life. If you have some things going on unconsciously that are holding you back, those gorgeous nails will only get you so far. So, why am I talking about the unconscious? Well, think about the things that you want in life that you don’t have yet. You say you want them, but somehow, they are not part of your reality yet. Why not? You […]
March 1, 2015

Waiting for the thaw

Winter has yet to release its icy grip on Chicago, the place I call home. The cold, dreary days can seem never-ending and we all get a bit stir crazy around this time of year. The lovely summer days we so enjoy seem to be part of the very distant past, or much too far in the future. It’s easy to feel a bit down during these times. Sometimes love is like this too. We go through a dry spell, a cold spell, a long lonely spell and we wonder if it will ever end. Too bad you can’t just pull out a calendar to determine when spring will finally come to your love life. Here are a few ideas for keeping your chin up while waiting for things to thaw out. Cultivate some perspective. When you look out the window and see the cold frozen landscape, you know that […]
May 18, 2015

Are you holding out for a fairy tale?

Love is such an emotional area of life. It doesn’t easily lend itself to cold hard facts or scientific research. We resist being pragmatic when it comes to love, preferring instead to believe in magic and all things romantic. Love can be magical, but counting on magic to bring someone into your life is problematic. When a belief is keeping what you want most away from you, it’s time to question it. Love is one of the few areas in life where we are actually encouraged to have unrealistic expectations. One of the most harmful of these is the belief that love is supposed to just happen and if you do anything to help it along you are desperate and somehow less of a woman. This has to stop! This myth is keeping you alone and stuck and I will not stand for it. You would never lock yourself in […]