love advice

January 30, 2019

Break the Pattern of Being Unavailable

Are you keeping yourself single by choosing to date an unavailable man? It’s very common to believe it’s the man who’s unavailable when really, its you! I know it seems wrong, like blaming the victim, but think about it this way: if you’re REALLY available for a relationship, why on earth would you consider dating an unavailable man ever? You wouldn’t! You’d be out of there the minute you knew he was unavailable, right? Yet I see so many women put up with unavailable men for months or even years and then blame the guy. I actually used to do this a lot, so no judgement here, just realize that it does happen and it’s up to you to change it. If you’re wondering if this applies to you, take a look at these 5 steps that make up the pattern: Step 1: You find a guy who: Won’t meet […]
February 13, 2019

Is He What You Want?

If you’re in a relationship and having some doubts, I’d like to ask you a question that my coach used to ask me all the time; “Is he what you want or what you think you can have?” This is HUGE because if you’re anything like I was, you can just get so tired of dating that you settle and get a bit lost. I was in this situation a few years ago. I’d been single for years and then I met someone who wanted to stick around. I thought it was better than a constant string of first dates or month-long relationships, but I knew it wasn’t what I really wanted. I was always trying to decide if I should stay or go and I was really struggling because I didn’t want to get back out there and start all over again. Have you been there? My coach would […]
May 1, 2019

Are You Special?

When I was single, I used to think that I was special, and not in a good way! I was absolutely certain that I was somehow incapable of ever having love in my life and that there was nothing I could do about it. Can you relate? Do you ever think that other people can have love and that they can figure it out but for some reason, it just may not be possible for you? If this describes you, take heart. I can assure you that it’s simply not true. After over a decade of being single, I finally found a wonderful man and you can too! It doesn’t have to take that long or be that hard. Finding love is not some mystical thing that visits you from the Gods. There are many things you can do to find love. Practical, do-able, figure-out-able things. To learn more, check […]
May 29, 2019

Dating Can Prepare You for a Relationship

Have you been single for an extended period of time? Want to know what can be beneficial to your personal growth and future relationships? Dating. Yes, dating can be one of the best tools for personal growth while you’re single. Why? Because it prepares you to be in a relationship by the very act of putting yourself out there and meeting new people. Dating also helps you to look into your own heart and to be honest with yourself and others about what you really want in a relationship. Finally, dating helps refine your communication skills because you’ll need to communicate with the men you’re seeing. Doing all of these things takes a lot of courage and self-awareness. It’s much easier to hang out with your friends, go to the gym, or work extra hours, but those things won’t help you find the love of your life. Dating will. To […]
October 9, 2019

Is Self Care Keeping You Single?

So many women get discouraged with dating and say they need to take a break. I understand completely! Dating can be brutal, especially if you’re just winging it and hoping for the best. But the “take a break” strategy is totally ineffective. Think about it, do you take a break from the gym and hope you’ll be in better shape in a few months? No! The mere passage of time does nothing to change the results you’re going to get. If you want a different result, you need to learn how to make it happen. So, what do you really want from dating? How will you use your time away from the dating scene to learn how to get what you want? What will you do differently next time? This is the ultimate self-care, because it’s having your own back instead of checking out on yourself. It’s hard, but it’s […]