You’re on your way home from a lukewarm first date. He was nice enough, but there wasn’t much of a spark. You’re not sure you want to go on a second date.
I’ve been there. Most women have. Unless you found him completely unattractive or there were some red flags, I’d like to encourage you to consider agreeing to a second date.
Women generally take longer to warm up to a potential partner than men do. We want to feel a connection right from the start, but sometimes that can be slow to build. Giving things a chance to develop can really pay off.
Most women don’t know right away when they meet the love of their lives.
If you’ve had a lot of challenges in your dating life, you need to give men who don’t excite you right away a shot. The guys you’ve had instant chemistry with in the past haven’t worked out so well.
You’ll need to leave your comfort zone and date guys who haven’t been your type in the past to get a different result.
Many times, a strong attraction at the very beginning can spell trouble. Relationships that build over time tend to be more healthy and stable.
If you saw any red flags or you found him completely unattractive, there’s no need to torture yourself by going on a second date with him.
Feel free to write him off if he was rude, disrespectful, or completely unsuitable. Just be sure that you’re not dismissing him out of hand.
I’ve heard countless stories of women who took a month or two to warm up to men they are now dating or married to.
It took me at least five dates to start getting butterflies with my own boyfriend who I’m now over the moon for. To think that I could have missed out on having this wonderful man in my life just because I wasn’t sure about him on our first date would have been tragic.
Please don’t deprive yourself of the chance to fall in love by insisting on instant chemistry. Your future self will thank you for giving your attraction to him a chance to grow over time.
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