I was at the grocery store recently and saw three very good-looking guys in their mid-twenties in the produce section. They seemed a bit lost. An older woman approached and asked if she could assist them. One of the men proceeded to tell her that he was going to make a salad for his girlfriend and didn’t know what to buy.
My heart melted on the spot.
We women sometimes prefer to think that guys are insensitive, out for themselves, and inconsiderate. Most of the time, this isn’t true.
Men love women and want to make them happy. We simply need to find a way to help them feel less lost in the process. We can do this by knowing what makes us happy, sharing this information with the men in our lives, and not associating with men who don’t want to make us happy.
First, know what makes you happy. This is your job, not his. If you won’t take the time to figure this out, how can you expect him to? Please be willing to know yourself and take responsibility for your own feelings. Don’t expect him to go where you refuse to go. No one can read your mind.
Next, share this info with your guy in a friendly way. This is so scary, I know. You can start with simple things, like saying you’d prefer sushi over Italian. Maybe you’d like dessert. I once told my man that I’d like to linger at the piano bar after dinner and he actually sent the valet back to re-park the car! We still laugh about it.
Finally, don’t be a victim. If someone in your life is mistreating you, let them go. The men who care about you and are interested in building a relationship with you really do want to make you happy. The ones who don’t simply aren’t your guy.
If you have to chase him down, call him, set up dates, ask him not to flirt with other women in front of you and generally remind him that you exist, he’s not the one for you. Men know how to call you, plan dates, and treat you respectfully.
Pick the guys who are doing those things and then let them know what makes you happy. They’ll be thrilled to go to the store and make you a salad. When they do, be sure to say thank you and tell them how much you appreciate it!
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