In the quest for love, sometimes it’s easy to get a bit myopic. How many dates have you been on? How many more can you line up? What should you say/not say? Should you call/text/write? Will he/she contact you again? Id’ like to encourage you to take a step back and come from a place of love on your dates and with the people around you.
Everyone wants love, from executives to panhandlers, celebrities to janitors, right down to the last person you dated.
The desire to find love is one of the great equalizers of the human race.
Remember this the next time you’re interacting with someone. Relax and open yourself up to being with this person at this very moment in time. This person in front of you has hopes, fears, dreams and challenges, just like you.
Take a minute to not worry about whether he or she is the One, or if the two of you will go on another date. Just be with them and enjoy the moment.
As much as possible, cultivate an attitude of relaxed openness. Let someone go ahead of you in traffic or on the elevator. Do a small kindness for someone every day, even just a smile or a compliment can make a person’s day. Pay it forward. Volunteer for something. Slow down and be more aware instead of rushing through life. You may meet someone you would have sped past before, you never know.
Practice loving your family and colleagues, even when they are annoying. Especially when they are annoying. This doesn’t mean that you don’t set appropriate boundaries, it does mean that you are kind. Because you are taking great care of yourself first, you can be more magnanimous, more open. You can relax and come from a higher place, knowing that your needs are met, you are okay.
In loving the people around you, anyone in your path on a given day, you will feel more open and happy. Because you are taking good care of yourself, you will be coming from a place of excess, not giving because you hope someone will notice and give back to you. You’re taking care of yourself. You’ve got it covered. You trust that all is well and you know that you’re helping to make the world a better place. One neighbor at a time.
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