It hurts my heart to see a bunch of cranky women bitching about dating.


They go on and on about how awful it all is, the men, the sites, the apps.


There are no good guys, all they want is sex, everyone lies.


They’re so bitter, cynical and ultimately, they’re hurting.


I’ve definitely been there.


I did more than my fair share of complaining about all things men and dating.


One man I dated even called me “hard boiled”.


Ouch!


But he was right.


And I thought a lot about what he said.


I had assumed that the more cynical and guarded I was, the harder a man would have to fight to prove himself to me.


I’d hoped that my very thick shell would keep me safe from the pain I’d experienced so often.


But it only repelled decent men who might have otherwise wanted to know me.


Turns out, no man wanted to climb my 9 foot high wall of death with the barbed wire on top only to be shot down.


I guess I shouldn’t have been surprised at that.


Eventually I learned that a bad attitude would never keep me as safe as having my own back and communicating openly and honestly about what I was looking for.


Those things required vulnerability and courage.


And so does an intimate relationship.


So if that’s what you’re looking for, try switching out the complaining for some soul searching.


It isn’t easy, but it’s very effective.


To learn more, check out
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