Finding love is like planting a garden. It takes time and it’s a process. You plant, you water, you pull weeds, you wait. If you want to give your dream a fighting chance, you’re going to have to water the seed you planted with some serious positivity and faith. The best ways to do this are to spend time with people who encourage you, cultivate a positive attitude, and find support.
Seek out encouraging information. Stop hanging around with people who shoot holes in your dreams, reading articles about how hard dating is or how men suck or whatever. Don’t watch reality TV or otherwise drown yourself in negativity. Why would you do this to yourself?
Find encouraging videos on YouTube (check out my YouTube channel here!), read inspirational books about people who overcame huge obstacles, pray or meditate. Become a believer in yourself and your dreams.
Cultivate a positive attitude. When you feel discouraged or doubtful, know how to talk yourself out of it. Exercise your faith muscles. Faith and positivity require discipline and practice, so start practicing. When you fall down, and you will, just get up and get on your way again. Don’t spend one precious minute on regrets or berating yourself. Simply set your intention to continue and move on.
Guided meditation can be very helpful in replacing old negative beliefs with more positive thoughts. Your thoughts really do shape your life, so do everything you can to make sure they’re the kind of thoughts that will help propel you toward your goal.
Watch happy romantic movies, watch comedies, spend time laughing. Write a list of all the wonderful people and things in your life and practice being happy. Look for the good.
Find support. Everyone needs support. Humans are social creatures and we need each other. You can do so much more with the support of others than you can do alone.
Don’t be afraid to reach out to your friends and family if they will be positive and encourage you. Working with a coach is also very beneficial in attaining a big dream. A good coach can help you see where you might be getting in your own way and will definitely help you believe in yourself. She will be there for you when you’re feeling discouraged and remind you of your goals.
There are also many good group coaching or tele-classes that you can participate in that will support you on your journey. Make sure you get the support you need.
Finding the love of your life is a big project and you will need to have faith.
If you’re doing something you’ve never done before, believing that your dream is actually possible is essential.
Being with people who encourage you, having a positive mindset and finding support are crucial. Do whatever you need to do to cultivate your belief in love and in yourself.
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