You’d really like to meet someone special already. You’ve had a few disappointments, and you never thought it would take this long. You really thought you’d be with someone by this stage in your life.
I hear you! The years have a way of slipping by and between work, other responsibilities and maybe spending too much time with the wrong guys, you can find yourself alone for much longer than you’d hoped.
What should you do now that you’ve decided that it’s time to have a loving relationship? I recommend that you make time for dating, be open to different types of men and be willing to try new things.
First, make time for dating and meeting new people. If you’re constantly working, hanging out with your friends, or watching television you’re not leaving room for someone to come in. He’s not going to come and find you at the office.
Set aside time for finding people to date. Put it in your calendar just as you would a doctor or dentist appointment. If having a relationship is important to you, then just do it.
Second, be open to dating men who are not your “type”. If you have a certain type of guy you like, consider dating outside of this range. Dating your type has gotten you exactly where you are right now.
Ditch the list of superficial qualities you’ve been insisting on. Those things don’t make you happy. Take the time to figure out what you really want and need in a relationship and be open to dating men who display those qualities, even if there’s not a lot of chemistry at first. Great chemistry is no guarantee of relationship success.
Finally, be willing to try new things. If you’ve been doing the same thing for years, be willing to mix it up a bit. If you’ve only tried something once, try it again and consider what you can do differently.
What can you learn from your past experiences? For instance, if you’ve tried online dating without good results, learn what it takes to get a better result. One in three marriages now results from an online introduction, so it’s working for some people. Find out what successful people are doing and then follow suit.
Consider working with a coach or taking a course. Seeking out support and information instead of winging it can seriously shorten your learning curve. It can also help you see things that you couldn’t have figured out on your own. If having a loving relationship is truly important to you, get the support you need in order to make it happen.
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