It’s time to find Mr. Right. You’re ready and waiting. You know what you’re looking for, you’ve got your profile online and you’re rocking singles events. What more can you do?
Be the kind of person the man you are looking for would like to date.
It only makes sense for you to date someone who would be a good fit for you. Most of us like to aim high and who can blame us? We all like to think we’re better than average and look good for our age.
Even if these things are true, it’s easy to want someone who’s a bit out of our league and pass on perfectly good candidates because we think we can do better.
If you’re not being pursued by the kind of guy you want to date, you may need to make some adjustments.
A good place to begin is to be the best version of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally.
Men are visual creatures and it’s easier to get their attention if you look good. I’m not saying to run out and get surgery or a buy designer wardrobe, but it’s worth it to look as good as you can.
If you’ve been meaning to get to the gym and tone up, do it. If your wardrobe or hairstyle could use an update, why not just go for it? You will look and feel better and this confidence will be a boost to your self-esteem as well.
You’ll feel better when you take good care of yourself anyway, the man part is a bonus.
If you’re looking for someone who is well-read, I hope you’re reading. If you prefer to date someone who is well-educated, invest in your own education. Make sure that you’ve gotten your life in order and that you aren’t looking for someone to rescue you.
Clean up your apartment, pay your bills, finish your MBA. Whatever you want your life to be, make sure that you are working toward that. We all enjoy meeting people who inspire us, who are doing something with their lives instead of waiting for something to happen to them.
Create an inspiring life for yourself.
Finally, we’ve all had challenges and heartbreaks in life. No matter what happened to you in the past, deal with it and leave it behind so that you can start fresh. If you bring old baggage into a new relationship it can become toxic quickly.
It’s possible to create a new future for yourself and to change lifelong patterns. The key is to recognize what has caused you to attract these people and situations into your life so that you can do something differently in the future.
Taking responsibility is the first step. If you continue to blame people in your past you will continue to have the same kinds of relationships over and over again. Resolve to uncover any lingering patterns and address them today so that you can have the loving relationship you want to have now.
Being your best self physically, mentally and emotionally will help you attract the highest quality partner possible. Commit to doing these things so that you can live your best life.
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