You’re on a date and you really like this guy. You could see yourself getting excited about him. He’s probably got a few other women after him and you’re wondering how to stand out from the crowd. Should you start in with the low-cut tops, showcase your amazing legs, throw caution to the wind and spend the night with him right away? Not so fast.
Sex is the lowest common denominator, if you want a relationship, you need much more than sex, leading with sex will get you guys who only care about sex.
Sex is pretty basic. Anyone can pull it off. Guys want sex, but they want romance more. Men can have sex with anyone who has, well, the equipment, to put it quite frankly. It’s not the way to a guy’s heart.
Are you amazing? Of course you are! Do you have a beautiful heart, a brilliant mind, and fantastic dreams for your life? I bet you do.
Take off your clothes too early and none of that matters. You’ve just reduced everything to something even animals can do. It may not be fair, but life proves this out. You don’t have to like it, but do ask if you want to be known for more than, well, something anyone else can do with him.
Life is 24/7, sex it, like, what, 5 times a week, maybe? What percentage of your life do you actually spend having sex? Even people who really like sex and have a partner who is equally enthusiastic still have to work, go to the gym, do laundry.
At the end of the day, if your priority is to have a relationship with someone who adores you and wants to build a life with you, sex is going to be a small percentage of it. Don’t worry about sex right off the bat.
Does this mean you should be a prude? No, but don’t lead with sex. If you do, you’ll end up with guys who only care about sex. You can kiss him. You don’t have to dress like a nun. You can be a human being. Just know that your appeal to him needs to be more than sexual if you want the relationship to be more than sexual.
If you draw men in based on your value as a human being, as opposed to a sex object, they will think of you as a real person, not a plaything. As long as they find you attractive, sex will be on their minds and they will want to relate to you in this way. You really don’t have to go out of your way to be super-sexy to appeal to a man.
Your value as a woman does not begin and end with youth, beauty and sex. Remember this and act accordingly.
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