You really want to be in a relationship. You’re tired of being alone, going on endless dates or wondering what your ex is up to these days. You’d really like to be with someone special and share your life with him. It would be great if you could meet him already and just get on with it.
Does it really have to be so hard?
What does it take to create a loving relationship? Beginning with realistic expectations, cultivating emotional maturity and coming from a place of self-love will get off to a great start.
Are your expectations realistic? Life is not a romance novel. Are you choosing to date men who display good relationship skills or men who possess superficial qualities that you’re attracted to?
What is your “type”? Are you willing to consider men who fall outside this narrow category for the sake of having a satisfying relationship or will you continue to date the same kind of man over and over again and hope it works out better the next time?
Are you able to manage your emotions? Do you have good coping skills? Do you accept responsibility for your own life? Please don’t expect another human being to come along and make everything in your life better. Once you meet someone, you’ll still be you.
Keep in mind that you’ll tend to attract people who are at the same level as you, so if you want a great relationship, you need to be someone who’s capable of having one. Don’t expect finding a partner to magically morph you into a better version of yourself without doing the work.
Finally, there’s no substitute for loving yourself. You can’t take in love from another if you don’t love yourself. Also, once you truly love yourself, you won’t constantly feel the need to seek that which you are missing from someone else.
Loving yourself is more than bubble baths and manicures. It’s a willingness to create the best life for yourself, to get in touch with your own desires and dreams for your life and pursue them relentlessly. It’s standing for yourself and creating good boundaries so that people don’t run over you.
If you don’t love yourself, you’ll disappear into relationships and there won’t be any “you” there for him to love. He’ll lose respect for you because you won’t be respecting yourself.
If you want to be in a loving relationship, be willing to cultivate these qualities in yourself. It’s not about becoming perfect so much as having the healthy mindset that is required to relate to another human being in an intimate way.
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