Letting go

April 13, 2016

Are you in a toxic relationship?

Is your relationship costing you your peace of mind, sense of self, or the company of those you love? Do you spend more time fighting than enjoying each others’ company? Do your needs go unmet or unacknowledged? If the answer to these questions is yes, then you may be in a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships are emotionally and sometimes physically damaging to one or both partners. They are draining, unhealthy, and they steal our joy. If you have a hunch that you’re in a toxic relationship, you probably are. While it is tempting to simply leave the relationship and find someone new, I’d like to encourage you to take a closer look at the dynamics that created this situation in your life. If you work toward understanding your part in this, you’ll be much less likely to find yourself in the same kind of relationship again. First, take a good […]
September 21, 2016

Do you really want him back?

You get a text and it’s from HIM! The guy who dumped you, ghosted, or that you haven’t quite gotten over yet. You know the one. What to do now? Your ideal response depends on the nature of the correspondence, the status of the previous relationship and the current circumstances. First things first. What kind of text was it? Did he just say “hey”, “hi”, or “what’s up”? Is it 2 AM? Is it an indecent picture? If any of these apply, you know what to do. If it was something more heartfelt, such as an apology or an invitation to get together and talk, you may want to consider responding, unless this is a pattern with him. Sometimes, a man will need some space to evaluate the possibility of taking a relationship to the next level or to get a grip on his feelings for you. Ideally, he won’t […]
September 25, 2016

What to do when you can’t forget him

Is there someone you just can’t let go of, no matter what you do? If you know you need to forget him, check out this video. What to do when you’re stuck on one person
September 28, 2016

Why love is not enough to keep a relationship alive

Has he said those 3 magic words? Do you love him back? Yay!! Falling in love is one of the most magical things that can happen to us in life. I don’t want anyone to miss out on this wonderful experience. Intoxicating as it is though, it doesn’t mean you’re a match with this person. Falling in love is the easy part. Love is not enough to keep things going. It’s only one ingredient in a successful relationship. Don’t allow love to blind you to deal-breakers or keep you from the life you really want to have. Love is necessary, but it’s only part of what you need to build a lasting relationship with someone. You’ll also need to have compatible relationship goals, a commitment to each other, communication skills, and a real desire for the well-being of the other person. Successful long term relationships require practical consideration. Do you […]
November 9, 2016

What I learned from my son’s heartbreak

I’m no different than any other mom in the fact that I adore my children. Right or wrong, through thick and thin, period. A few years ago, my son fell in love with a woman who came from another country and was completely smitten with her. She held him at bay, was very conservative, and wasn’t sure she wanted to get involved. Despite her reluctance, he was determined to win her. He bought her things, drove her places, and was completely devoted to her, yet she would never commit to him. He wanted to take the relationship to the next level. He was absolutely crazy about her. Finally, she told him that if he’d fly to her home country alone to meet her parents and they approved of him, that she would consider a serious relationship with him. Undeterred, he purchased a plane ticket and off he went. As his […]