Are you willing to make an effort to find love?

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Are you willing to make an effort to find love?

You’re beyond ready to meet someone special. You want to find love already. Maybe all of your friends are already married, it’s been way too long since your last date or you just got wind that your ex got engaged. I hear you.

So, what are you willing to do to make this wish into a reality?

I’d like to encourage you to be willing to take some action on your own behalf. You are your own best advocate and in the end, no one else will ever care as much about your happiness as you do. Let’s begin!

It’s ok to work toward your goal of love, so decide that you are going to do this and follow up with consistent effort.

I know that it’s not considered romantic to actually conduct a search for love. It would be so much nicer if it just happened. Maybe it did for some of your friends or colleagues and you’re wondering what’s wrong.

I’ve got great news. Nothing is wrong. Some do people luck into great relationships, great jobs, even great thighs. If this is not you, that doesn’t mean that it isn’t meant to be. It just means that it’s time for you to roll up your sleeves and get to work.

If having a great relationship is important to you, you need to go on some dates. If you’re not meeting anyone in your day to day life, then it’s time to change that. What have you done about it lately?

If you wanted a job, you would search for a job and go on interviews. Love is no different, as much as we wish it were. Be willing to conduct a search.

Fill out an online profile today and log on for 30 minutes every day going forward. Attend at least one social event per week and be friendly to others as you go about your day to day life. Put your phone down and say hello the next time you’re out and about.

Do this consistently and you’ll have a boyfriend in a few months. Wait for it to happen and it’s anyone’s guess when you’ll have another date.

Consistent effort beats sporadic effort every time. If you want a healthy body, you don’t just go to the gym for a half an hour every other month or stick to a healthy eating plan for two days and then eat fast food for weeks on end. You know better than that.

Your love life is no different. Take it seriously enough to commit to regular consistent efforts and you will get results. Maybe not this week or next, but you will see results if you put in the effort over time. If you’re not doing all these things, start today.

If you’re doing all these things and none of it is working, it may be time to look a little deeper or talk to a coach about what’s happening. A coach can be like a personal trainer in the area of love and dating. She can help you get some perspective on what’s happening.

It’s human nature to invest in the things that are most important to us, so be willing to invest some time and effort into having the life you want.


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