So you’ve decided to tackle online dating. Congratulations! If you truly want to find a great partner, online dating is your best shot. Buckle up, it’s going to be a great ride.
Before you just slap up a profile and some selfies, do your homework. Decide what your ultimate goal is and own it so that you can state it in your profile in a man-friendly way. You’re doing all this work for a reason, right?
Decide what you want out of online dating, understand that it’s going to take some work to get there, and commit to the process.
First, the fun part. What do you want? Think about the kind of relationship you want to have, the kind of life you want to lead, how you want to feel when you are with this person. This will give you focus so you won’t be all over the place once you start dating.
If you’re in the suburbs and still have kids at home, you may not want to date Mr. Urban Man About Town. You may want to find someone who’s OK with being a step-father or has kids of his own.
Having focus will help you to narrow your search and write a better profile.
You may have heard horror stories about online dating. Everyone loves to tell these and unfortunately, many of them are true. There are ways to protect yourself from the worst of it, but the important thing to remember is not to take anything personally.
Online dating is the most efficient way to find a mate. It has its drawbacks, which can be minimized if you educate yourself, but you must expect some trials and disappointments. Consider them the price to be paid for true love and accept that they will probably happen. It really is OK.
Finally, commit to the process of online dating. For most, it’s a marathon, not a sprint. Embrace this fact. People run marathons all the time and it makes them stronger and more physically fit. It builds character. It’s also a great experience.
Seek the support of your family, friends, or a coach to be there for you during this time. It may be challenging, but that doesn’t mean that it isn’t worth doing.
You’ve probably done harder things than online dating. The fact is that in our culture, we’re not conditioned to think that we should have to work at finding love. Once you get used to the idea that it’s worth working for and that most things worth having are, you’ll be fine.
Online dating is the best way to meet the largest number of people in the least amount of time. It’s efficient and relatively inexpensive. It’s the best thing going right now and if you do it right, you’ll almost certainly reap the reward of the loving relationship you’ve been seeking.
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