There’s a special guy in your life. Sort of in your life. You see him all the time. He’s the one you want. He’s attractive, accomplished, and he likes you. At least it seems like he likes you. After all, he smiles at you. He hugs you sometimes and says nice things to you. He’s never really asked you out though. You seem to just “hang out”. Sometimes.
If any of this sounds familiar, you may be caught up in a fantasy relationship. These relationships will never progress beyond your romantic imagination. They’ve been known to soak up years of a single girl’s life and end up nowhere. If you ever want to have a real relationship, the kind with a loving man in your arms, you need to get a serious dose of reality. You’ve come to the right place.
A fantasy relationship keeps you alone.
You just know he likes you, so you wait, you hope, you scheme of ways to bump into him. Stop lying to yourself. A fantasy relationship is a way to have some semblance of romance in your life without any of the risks of having a real relationship.
You pine away, dreaming of the day he will ask you out. Meanwhile, he has a girlfriend or is gay, or is not interested in being more than friends with you. Face it, if you want a man to share your life with, it’s not going to be this guy.
A man who wants to be in a relationship with you will pursue you. Men are raised to go for what they want. They are encouraged from a very young age to strive for their goals and to be persistent. If the man you’re pining for has an education and a decent career and has ever dated anyone else, he knows how to pursue you. He has simply chosen not to.
He doesn’t secretly pine for you and think you’re out of his league. Go to any bar and you’ll see men falling all over women who are out of their league. Men go for what they want.
Stop hanging out with Fantasy Man and get a real boyfriend. The odds are virtually nil that he’s ever going to come around and it’s your happiness we’re talking about here. If you’ve become attached to spending time with him, you simply must cut him out of your life and spend time with men who are interested in dating you.
Telling him how you feel will likely make no difference and result in an awkward conversation, but do it if you must. Do whatever you need to do to help yourself realize that you need to move on. Unless you truly enjoy having the only man in your life being someone who will never step up and become your boyfriend, you must end this now.
If you truly want love in your life and there’s a man hanging around who’s not asking you out, it’s time to go for what you want. Face the fact that he’s not your guy, stop spending time with him and move on to men who want to be with you. You’ll be that much closer to having a wonderful man in your life.
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