We all know that Mr. Wrong can be a major pothole on the road to true love. If you’ve been spending a lot of time thinking about a man who’s not currently in your life, he’s probably a Mr. Wrong, at least for you.
In this post, I’m going to talk about your ex boyfriend, Mr. Booty call and the fantasy man. There are many other flavors of Mr. Wrong, but these are the major ones.
First and foremost, your ex. We all have exes. Some are better than others, but never forget, he’s an ex for a reason. Whatever that reason may be, the fact is that the relationship did not work out and most of the time that means he’s not your guy.
Often, one or both people will hang on after the end of a relationship, knowing it’s not salvageable, but not quite ready to move on yet. This limbo can be long lasting and excruciating for one or both parties.
You may really care about each other, but you’ve broken up and it’s time to let go now. If you don’t, it will be nearly impossible to bond with someone new.
Mr. Booty call. Oh boy is this trouble. For whatever reason, you’ve decided to sleep with him outside of an established relationship and now you want more. You’re holding on in the hopes that he comes to his senses and realizes how wonderful you are. Bad idea.
Please stop now. You’re not likely to turn this around, so cut your losses and resolve never to put yourself in this situation again.
Last, but not least, you may be involved in a fantasy relationship. This is essentially the same as the two above except there’s no history and no sex. Do whatever you need to do to get this guy out of your life and heart, stat. He’s not going to ask you out, leave his wife for you, move across the country, or realize how amazing you are.
It’s up to you to realize how amazing you are and stop settling for crumbs in your life. The thing that all of these Mr. Wrong setups have in common is your willingness to settle for much less than you deserve in the relationship department.
That’s right, I said your willingness to settle. Because these guys aren’t banging your door down. They can take you or leave you, if they even think about you much at all.
In the end, there’s nothing wrong with settling for a guy who’s on the short side, doesn’t have an impressive job title or isn’t wealthy. I’d much rather see you “settle” for a Mr. Ordinary who loves you and treats you like a queen than some fantastically hot guy who has Mr. Wrong written all over him.
These men are the stuff that nightmares are made of and if you’re pining for one of them, it’s time to get clear on the difference between settling and compromising. Anytime you’re involved with a Mr. Wrong, you’re most definitely settling in the worst way possible.
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