I’m super fired up today and this post contains some tough love. It seems like everywhere I look, someone is healing. Healing from a past relationship, childhood wounds, adulthood wounds. Life brings us so many opportunities to get hurt. Especially in matters of the heart.
“Healing” is defined as “to make well or whole”. The thing about healing is that eventually, it’s over.
The human body knows how to heal itself. So does the human spirit.
Even a casual glimpse through history will reveal the incredible resilience we humans are capable of. Check out the life stories of people who’ve achieved great things, and you’ll find inspiring tales of overcoming obstacles and challenges, not of years spent healing.
That said, there’s a time and a place for grief and feelings do need to be felt and honored. If you’re in the midst of a time of loss, my heart goes out to you. Getting help and support at this time can help you navigate a loss without losing yourself.
Please don’t make the mistake of hiding from your own life and postponing the pursuit of all you hold dear in the name of healing. Your life won’t wait. Time will continue to pass. You will continue to get older. The guy who’s looking for you may find someone else. Another person will get the job or the house you didn’t go for.
If you think you may be stuck somewhere in the healing process, set aside some time to sit with your feelings and really feel them, let them move through your body and don’t resist them. You’ll be surprised at how quickly this will help you.
You can also try journaling and writing a letter to the person or people who hurt you (please don’t send it). Pour out all your feelings onto the page or yell at an empty chair where you imagine them sitting. Finally, be willing to forgive. Even stating aloud that you are willing to forgive and asking God or the universe for assistance can help.
Forgiveness is not letting the other person off the hook. You don’t have to invite them to tea or even speak to them. You just need to let the venom escape from your heart so that it will no longer continue to poison you.
When you’ve done these things, please go on with your life. Pursue your dreams. Take action. You can revisit these exercises any time you need them or find some others on your own. YouTube is full of inspiring videos on healing and forgiveness.
Life can be tough and horrifically painful at times, but in the end, I believe it’s still worth participating in. Will you join me?
You don’t have to spend months or years alone and feeling broken. Please remember that healing is an active process, not a detour to waste years of your life on.
I’m Renée Suzanne, a coach for smart successful women who want to find love. They’re tired of dating and just want to meet the right guy. I help them navigate the dating process step by step, so that they can find the wonderful relationship they’ve always dreamed of.
I believe that with the right skills and attitude, you can find true love and I’m here to help!