Winter has yet to release its icy grip on Chicago, the place I call home. The cold, dreary days can seem never-ending and we all get a bit stir crazy around this time of year. The lovely summer days we so enjoy seem to be part of the very distant past, or much too far in the future. It’s easy to feel a bit down during these times.
Sometimes love is like this too. We go through a dry spell, a cold spell, a long lonely spell and we wonder if it will ever end. Too bad you can’t just pull out a calendar to determine when spring will finally come to your love life. Here are a few ideas for keeping your chin up while waiting for things to thaw out.
Cultivate some perspective. When you look out the window and see the cold frozen landscape, you know that it will come back to life. Not today or tomorrow, but soon. You can remember what spring looks like. The trees budding, the lush, full grass and flowers.
You can do the same thing with your love life when you’re feeling lonely. Think about what you want, the way you’d like it to be. Imagine yourself happy, in love, holding hands and waking up next to someone who adores you. Know that this person is out there right now searching for you.
You can stubbornly refuse to accept that it will be like this forever, because it won’t.
Do whatever you can today. It’s hard to get motivated to go out when it’s freezing, but do try to be social. Force yourself to get dolled up and go to something. You may meet someone special, but even if you don’t you will feel better after leaving your home and spending time around other people.
Try to go to at least one social activity a week. You can also use this time to tweak your online profile or shop for some date outfits. Spend some extra time at the gym or set aside an evening to pamper yourself. Take a weekend trip with friends to someplace warm if you can or read a good book while you soak in a hot bath.
Once you’ve done all you can, trust that it’s going to work out. They say a watched pot never boils. Staring out the window and wishing winter away won’t make it leave any faster. So it is with love. The great paradox is to make peace with where you are now while reaching for the life you want to create. Keep the faith and know that your time is coming, just like spring.
Winter will end eventually, and so will your lonely times. Putting things in perspective, taking action, and trusting that things are going to work out will help you feel better and move you closer to the life you want to have.
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