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September 19, 2018

The Reason You’re Single

Could you be wrong about the reason you’re single? If you’ve been on your own for a long time, you probably have a lot of ideas about why you’re single. I know I did! Perhaps you think that men are shallow or intimidated by a smart, successful woman like you. Maybe you’re convinced that your size, age, or kids are keeping you alone. Ideas like this can keep you from putting yourself out there and making an attempt to find love. I’d like to challenge you to test them out and see if they’re true. Kind of like a dating science experiment if you will. Look at other women around you. Not everyone who is happily paired up is a size 2 or a supermodel. Many happily married women are just as brilliant and successful as you are. Take some time to study what other women who are in love and […]
October 10, 2018

5 Habits That Are Keeping You Single

Do you know what’s keeping you single? There are 5 habits I see all the time that derail women’s love lives. I used to do a lot of these things when I was single, so I know all about them. They can be a bit sneaky, and you may think these things are just happening to you, but they can be patterns. If you’re feeling brave, ask your friends if they see you doing this stuff. You definitely want to ditch these ASAP so that you can stop sabotaging your chances at finding love. 1) Dating unavailable people We’re all so busy and it can be very easy to take weeks to get together for a first date. Once that actually happens, it takes forever to get around to the second. You settle for texts and never talk on the phone. You ask him to call but he continues to […]
January 30, 2019

Break the Pattern of Being Unavailable

Are you keeping yourself single by choosing to date an unavailable man? It’s very common to believe it’s the man who’s unavailable when really, its you! I know it seems wrong, like blaming the victim, but think about it this way: if you’re REALLY available for a relationship, why on earth would you consider dating an unavailable man ever? You wouldn’t! You’d be out of there the minute you knew he was unavailable, right? Yet I see so many women put up with unavailable men for months or even years and then blame the guy. I actually used to do this a lot, so no judgement here, just realize that it does happen and it’s up to you to change it. If you’re wondering if this applies to you, take a look at these 5 steps that make up the pattern: Step 1: You find a guy who: Won’t meet […]
February 13, 2019

Is He What You Want?

If you’re in a relationship and having some doubts, I’d like to ask you a question that my coach used to ask me all the time; “Is he what you want or what you think you can have?” This is HUGE because if you’re anything like I was, you can just get so tired of dating that you settle and get a bit lost. I was in this situation a few years ago. I’d been single for years and then I met someone who wanted to stick around. I thought it was better than a constant string of first dates or month-long relationships, but I knew it wasn’t what I really wanted. I was always trying to decide if I should stay or go and I was really struggling because I didn’t want to get back out there and start all over again. Have you been there? My coach would […]
February 20, 2019

It’s Okay to be Weird

Back in the day I used to host bible studies at my house. Many of the people who attended were couples. There was one couple that stood out to me. They were newlyweds, weren’t in the best of shape and dressed kind of funny. Ok, really funny. I often wondered how on earth they found each other, but they were really sweet and affectionate with each other which was super adorable. I used to look at them, as a single person trying to date and wonder what I was missing. I was “normal” compared to them, in good shape, younger, dressed better, but I wasn’t meeting anyone! Despite being the strange birds that they were, they were completely in love and were the exact right kind of strange for one another. It seemed like a miracle to me. I remember thinking about it a lot. As they say, there really […]