relationships

May 10, 2015

Moms need love too

Happy Mother’s Day!   I’d like to say thank you to moms everywhere for all you do. I’ve had many jobs in my life, and none of them was tougher than being a single mother to four children. If you’re a single mom who wants to find someone special, I’ve been in your shoes and today’s post is especially for you and packed with tons of love. Just because you’re a single mom doesn’t mean that you can’t have love. I’m not going to lie and tell you that it will be easy. You know that being a mom is not easy. It is possible for you to have love though, and I don’t want you to wait until after your kids are grown to pursue it. Being a mom is an enormous responsibility and usually comes with a heavy dose of guilt if we ever dare to put ourselves […]
May 18, 2015

Are you holding out for a fairy tale?

Love is such an emotional area of life. It doesn’t easily lend itself to cold hard facts or scientific research. We resist being pragmatic when it comes to love, preferring instead to believe in magic and all things romantic. Love can be magical, but counting on magic to bring someone into your life is problematic. When a belief is keeping what you want most away from you, it’s time to question it. Love is one of the few areas in life where we are actually encouraged to have unrealistic expectations. One of the most harmful of these is the belief that love is supposed to just happen and if you do anything to help it along you are desperate and somehow less of a woman. This has to stop! This myth is keeping you alone and stuck and I will not stand for it. You would never lock yourself in […]
May 24, 2015

Why I became a coach

Hi, Renée Suzanne here!  I wanted to get personal today and tell my story about what I do and why I became a coach. While raising four children alone, I graduated from university on full merit scholarship at the age of 29. I was intelligent and no stranger to hard work, but I was still unable to have such a simple thing as love. It seemed like everyone else had it all figured out. I stubbornly refused to give to up on my dream. One day after getting my heart broken yet again, I bought myself a ring, stood in the mirror and placed it on my own finger. I promised myself that I would find a way to have love in my life, and I did! Now it is my fondest hope to make the process of finding love easier for anyone who is willing to do the work necessary. […]
June 30, 2015

Should you consider a long-distance relationship?

Dating has changed a lot in the last few years. It was complicated enough back in the day, but now with Facebook, texting, and online dating there’s a lot more to navigate. It is now possible, and not all that uncommon, to date someone in another part of the country or even another part of the world. It’s great to be open to possibilities, but before you jump into a long-distance relationship, consider these questions. What do I want? Do you want to get married and have children? Do you want to have someone present in your life on a daily basis? What kind of lifestyle do you want to have? Knowing the answers to these questions and acting accordingly will save you a ton of pain. When you know what you want, you can choose to date people who are able meet your needs. Most men want to make […]
July 5, 2015

You Are Love

I just read an angst-filled article written by a woman who is obviously intelligent, accomplished, and self-aware. In it, she outlined how she is much more concerned with a man being good enough for her than in making herself good enough for him. I commend her for her determination not to settle and to continue to hold out for someone who makes her happy. I’m not a fan of settling by any means. It’s just that she sounds kind of pissed. The search for love can be frustrating and fraught with all sorts of disappointments. When we come from a lonesome, angst-filled place it’s easy to start feeling angry. Whether justified or not, anger is not attractive. Love is not waiting for you to find it, hiding from you in the form of some man who won’t call you or commit to a relationship. Love is not “out there”. Love […]