relationship advice

June 15, 2015

Your online dating profile matters

A lot of my clients complain that the men who respond to them online are just random guys looking for a hookup. Nothing special, not trying to court them or even bothering to write a decent email. When I ask what kind of profile they have posted they usually tell me it’s basic, generic, breezy. That can be a problem if you’re looking for quality. When you post an online dating profile that attempts to appeal to everyone and don’t make it unique, you blend in with everyone else on the site. That’s not what you want. So many people are online these days and you need to stand out if you want to get quality dates. Your profile and pictures are all you have going for you until you actually meet, so you need to make the most of them. Be serious about this and you’ll get better results. […]
July 19, 2015

When should you sleep with him?

You’re on a great date, the chemistry is off the charts and you’re excited. Where has this amazing man been all your life? You cannot wait to kiss him, and you can definitely imagine doing much more than that! It’s so wonderful when you really connect with someone and you can see yourself with him, especially if it’s been awhile since you’ve met someone special. You can’t wait to hop into bed, have him in your life, and enjoy your happily ever after. If your goal is a long term relationship, how long should you wait before you sleep with him? The answer is, it depends. There are things you need to find out before you throw caution to the wind and bed down with a new man. Specifically, you’ll benefit most from knowing if he shares your relationship goals, is really your boyfriend and there is an established timeline […]
July 27, 2015

Are you really OK with casual sex?

It’s the morning after you’ve slept with a new man for the first time. How long does it take you to check your phone? If you’re like most women, you’re checking the thing all day for his call or text. Then there’s the next day, and the next. The sinking feeling starts in the pit of your stomach. You go from surprised to sad to angry to wondering why the hell you care. Didn’t you just meet this guy? It’s common for women to feel like they should be OK with no-strings sex or “friends with benefits”. Casual sex is considered socially acceptable and even revered in some circles. It seems like everyone’s hooking up and we should be too. We feel like we should be able to date like men, but fact is that we are not men. We are wired differently than they are and with few exceptions, we […]
August 10, 2015

Who is Mr. Right?

So you’ve decided that it’s time to get serious about finding your Mr. Right. You’re done with dating the bad boys, you’re over the ex, and the stars have aligned. You even have some fantastic outfits to wear on dates. You’re finally ready for Mr. Right and you’d like to work toward meeting him. Great! Now what? It’s a big world out there and you have to narrow your search somehow. It’s a lot easier to find something if you know what it is. Start by writing your big list, narrow it down to five non-negotiables and consider the 80/20 rule. The first thing to do is get out some paper and write down all the qualities you’d like for him to have. Even if you’ve done this before, do it again and don’t hold back. Put it all down on paper and don’t worry about judging it. Do you […]
August 17, 2015

How to help Mr. Right find you

You’d really like to find your Mr. Right. You’ve been looking for a while. Where is he anyway? You’re starting to feel a bit impatient and wondering if he’s ever going to show up. It’d be great if he sauntered up to you the next time you’re out with the girls, but don’t be discouraged if that doesn’t happen. Many times, finding the right guy takes a bit more effort than just showing up in public places and looking good. If you’re ready to meet someone and it’s not happening naturally, it’s time to give nature a helping hand. The three best ways to meet a quality man are to create an online profile, interact with others at social events, and to be friendly when going about your life. Online dating is huge. Numbers don’t lie. A recent study said that over one third of marriages began with an online […]