love tips

February 6, 2019

Intimacy While Dating

I don’t need to tell you that men want sex. Physical intimacy is usually a part of a romantic relationship and we all like it that way! If you want more than that from a relationship, make sure you’ve discussed it before things go too far. Most men will want to make out first and ask questions later, if ever. Try to not find them wrong for feeling that way. This tendency is responsible for the existence of our species and it’s not likely to change anytime soon. Instead, learn to understand and work with it. You both have a right to feel as you do and want what you want. If you want a long term relationship, make sure you’re dealing with a man who shares that desire and discuss it openly. As you increase the physical closeness in your relationship, make sure that you’re also increasing the emotional […]
February 13, 2019

Is He What You Want?

If you’re in a relationship and having some doubts, I’d like to ask you a question that my coach used to ask me all the time; “Is he what you want or what you think you can have?” This is HUGE because if you’re anything like I was, you can just get so tired of dating that you settle and get a bit lost. I was in this situation a few years ago. I’d been single for years and then I met someone who wanted to stick around. I thought it was better than a constant string of first dates or month-long relationships, but I knew it wasn’t what I really wanted. I was always trying to decide if I should stay or go and I was really struggling because I didn’t want to get back out there and start all over again. Have you been there? My coach would […]
February 20, 2019

It’s Okay to be Weird

Back in the day I used to host bible studies at my house. Many of the people who attended were couples. There was one couple that stood out to me. They were newlyweds, weren’t in the best of shape and dressed kind of funny. Ok, really funny. I often wondered how on earth they found each other, but they were really sweet and affectionate with each other which was super adorable. I used to look at them, as a single person trying to date and wonder what I was missing. I was “normal” compared to them, in good shape, younger, dressed better, but I wasn’t meeting anyone! Despite being the strange birds that they were, they were completely in love and were the exact right kind of strange for one another. It seemed like a miracle to me. I remember thinking about it a lot. As they say, there really […]
March 6, 2019

Are You Involved With a Pinger?

Are you familiar with the term “Pinger”? If the man you’re seeing not only texts, but calls you and takes you out on real dates, that’s fantastic! It shows that he’s interested in getting to know you. But if there’s been no actual in-person contact, just a few texts here and there, you may have a Pinger in your life. Well, not really in your life, but taking up way too much space in your head. A Pinger will send you a text once in a while to flirt and keep your interest, but there’s never any real progression in the relationship. He’ll always have some reason he’s not able to meet you. And that’s where it ends. Except that it doesn’t really end because he’ll keep pinging you, usually when you’re just on the verge of giving up on him and actually going out and trying to find someone […]
April 3, 2019

Is Your Right Guy Out There?

How romantic is it to believe that the perfect guy for you is out there and that when the time is right, you’ll meet him? All the chick flicks tell us that this how it is, or at least, how it should be. I believed that myth for almost a decade. I truly thought that if I waited, without doing much of anything else, the right guy would simply turn up and everything would be fantastic. For most of us, it just doesn’t work that way. It’s much more likely that believing those things will end up keeping you single for much longer than you would be if you were more proactive. After spending nearly a decade waiting, I spent another few years figuring out how to make my dream of love happen. That was much more effective. You don’t need to burn as much time on this as I […]