love advice

October 16, 2019

Shouldn’t I Be Able to Figure This Out on My Own?

You’re smart and successful. You’ve done so many things that have been challenging. On your own thank you very much! Why would you need help with something as basic as finding love? Shouldn’t that just happen? Except that it hasn’t yet. You’ve been waiting for years. You’ve paid your dues, tried online dating, speed dating, duty dating, not dating. You’ve probably had your heart broken too. Or spent years in a relationship (or three) that went nowhere. What you haven’t done is figured it out on your own. It’s ok to ask for help. People hire others to help them all the time. You probably have too. Doctors, attorneys, accountants, the guy who fixed your roof. You were happy to have access to their expertise and they helped you solve real problems. Doing things on your own (when they’re not working) is one of the most expensive and time-consuming ways […]
October 23, 2019

Should You Listen to Your Gut?

Listening to your gut can be extremely valuable at times. Other times, not so much. Consider this: Your life is the result of what you’ve been thinking and doing up until now. There are plenty of things in your life that are working very well. You have a place to live, food to eat, clean drinking water, probably even friends and family who love you. Then there are the things you want to change. You’ll need to do different things if you want change, because what you’re doing now is giving you what you have now. If you want something new, you need to do new things, live a new way. You can bring your gut with you, and not let it run the show. You can say, “Hey, I hear you gut, and we’re going to try this new thing now.” If you stick with this process, your gut […]
October 30, 2019

Should You Be Willing to Change?

We often bristle at the idea of changing in order to find love. We think “He should love and accept me as I am!” And it’s true that we all deserve to be loved and accepted. But the fact is that the person you are today is not in a long-term committed relationship and you want to be a person who is. Who is that person? We change things about ourselves all the time because we want what those changes bring. We eat different foods, exercise, get degrees and certifications, become parents. We make sacrifices in order to do those things; time, money, comfort, effort. Why do we think that a loving, committed relationship should be any different? Why not be willing to change to become the woman who’s sharing her life with a man she loves who loves her back? Wouldn’t it be fun? To learn more, check out […]
November 6, 2019

Are You Like The Guy Who Won’t Ask For Directions?

Have you ever been in a car with someone who’s lost and refuses to ask for directions? I have. I’ve even been that person. It seems easier just to keep driving sometimes. You’ll probably figure it out, right? But eventually you may need to ask for help to get back on track. Consider taking this approach when it comes to dating. If you’ve been at it for years and it’s not working out the way you’d like, why not ask for help? It beats doing the same things over and over again for a few more years or giving up altogether. Dating really doesn’t have to be that hard. There are solutions that can help you get back on track. So, pull over and get those directions today. You’ll be so glad you did. To learn more, check out this video! Ready to stop leaving your love life to chance? […]
November 13, 2019

Be Open to Doing Things You Don’t Like

Do you hope to find someone who shares your love of dogs, Bordeaux, and jazz? Maybe you hope he’ll come to yoga class with you or be open to learning to meditate? I can relate. But this outlook is not helping your love life at all. I once had a client who would not date anyone outside of her chosen profession because she insisted that they were too boring. As far as I know, she’s still looking for someone. Please don’t do this if you’re interested in finding anyone in this lifetime. It’s time to broaden your horizons and be open to meeting different types of men. If you do, you’re much more likely to be successful and you may even end up with a few new hobbies. To learn more, check out this video! Ready to stop leaving your love life to chance? Drop me a line to schedule […]