dating tips

September 19, 2018

The Reason You’re Single

Could you be wrong about the reason you’re single? If you’ve been on your own for a long time, you probably have a lot of ideas about why you’re single. I know I did! Perhaps you think that men are shallow or intimidated by a smart, successful woman like you. Maybe you’re convinced that your size, age, or kids are keeping you alone. Ideas like this can keep you from putting yourself out there and making an attempt to find love. I’d like to challenge you to test them out and see if they’re true. Kind of like a dating science experiment if you will. Look at other women around you. Not everyone who is happily paired up is a size 2 or a supermodel. Many happily married women are just as brilliant and successful as you are. Take some time to study what other women who are in love and […]
September 26, 2018

What’s Been Holding You Back from Finding Love

Do you feel that something’s been holding you back from finding love? I have SO been there. I know what it’s like to be single for years on end and feel incredibly frustrated at the apparent lack of good men. Consider that you have more influence on this situation than you think you do, and it starts in your very own mind. Here’s how: You LOVE being right. About everything. It’s OK, so do I. Just ask my husband how much I love to be right, he’ll tell you! That’s just how our brains are wired – we all love being right. But your desire to be right could be costing you a lot. It could be costing you the opportunity to have love in your life. When you have a belief, your brain works to find evidence to prove it’s true. In doing this, you will actually create the […]
October 3, 2018

Are You Bad at Relationships?

Are you bad at relationships? I definitely used to be. In fact, I believe I was the QUEEN of being bad at relationships. For many years I couldn’t get a relationship to last longer than a month – if that. It was so discouraging and I thought it was a lost cause. There I was, Miss “Bad at relationships”. But being bad at relationships isn’t something that just happens to you. You weren’t born bad at relationships. You weren’t born knowing how to do very much of anything at all.  So if you’re bad at relationships, you learned how to be bad at them. The good news is that you can now learn how to be good at them. There are so many resources available to you so that you can learn to be great at relationships. You can take classes, work with a coach, read books, or watch YouTube […]
October 10, 2018

5 Habits That Are Keeping You Single

Do you know what’s keeping you single? There are 5 habits I see all the time that derail women’s love lives. I used to do a lot of these things when I was single, so I know all about them. They can be a bit sneaky, and you may think these things are just happening to you, but they can be patterns. If you’re feeling brave, ask your friends if they see you doing this stuff. You definitely want to ditch these ASAP so that you can stop sabotaging your chances at finding love. 1) Dating unavailable people We’re all so busy and it can be very easy to take weeks to get together for a first date. Once that actually happens, it takes forever to get around to the second. You settle for texts and never talk on the phone. You ask him to call but he continues to […]
October 17, 2018

Has Dating Made You Bitter?

Dating, and life in general, can deal some harsh blows. Pretty much everyone over the age of 20 has a right to be bitter! I know the kinds of things that can happen when you’re out there dating and it can be so heartbreaking! I’ve dealt with painful breakups, being ghosted, and long spells of first dates (and no dates). I’ve heard it all AND gone through much of it firsthand. Here’s the thing; being jaded and snarky doesn’t serve you and it’s definitely not any fun. Honestly, when’s the last time you saw a bitter person and thought, “Wow, I can’t wait to hang out with them.” Probably never. If you’d like to leave bitterness behind, take a look at the things that have caused you so much pain and ask yourself what belief is at the root of it. Do you believe that men only want one thing? […]