dating the wrong people

December 4, 2019

Do You Want to Know The Real Reason You’re Still Single?

When I was single I would lie awake at night wondering why. I wanted to fix it as soon as possible. I thought that once I knew the truth about myself it would change everything. But it didn’t. Just knowing something, no matter how important, doesn’t change your life or your relationship status. Knowing is only the beginning. Once you know, you must act on that knowledge, make new decisions, build new habits that turn into new ways of being in the world. You must become the person who has the life you want. If you want to become a person who has a great relationship, I can help. It sure beats just knowing why you’re single, but not knowing how to move on from that. To learn more, check out this video! Ready to stop leaving your love life to chance? Drop me a line to schedule a complimentary […]
December 11, 2019

How to Escape From Self-Help Purgatory

Back in the early 2000’s, you could find me hanging around the self-help section of the local bookstore pretty much every week. I was a single mom who was totally frustrated with dating and hungry for answers. I read EVERYTHING! I was always looking for the next thing I needed to fix about myself in order to find love. It was like a really long treasure hunt with lots of different maps. This became my pet project, my unsolvable problem that seemed destined to haunt me throughout my life. And nothing ever changed, no matter what I read. Now I know why. Knowledge without consistent action will not create lasting change in your life. Going from chronically single to happily married cannot be achieved by grasping concepts in books. It must be lived into. I still love reading self-help, but now I seek out support to implement the changes I […]
December 18, 2019

How to Get Everything You Want

What do you want most in life? To find a partner to share your life with? Work success? A new home? Yes, I write about finding love, but honestly, this will work for any goal if practiced regularly. The secret to having what you want is to become the person who has it. To live into it, not to go out and get it. (Because if you knew how to do that, you would have by now) So, start with your imagination. What does the person who has the thing you want do every day? What does she think about? What does she eat? What does she wear? Get out of your own skin and into hers. Do this over and over again, every day if possible. If you do, you’ll have new ideas, new ways of being, new possibilities. Little by little, you will become a new person who […]
January 8, 2020

How to Make Dating Fun

Do you think dating is a huge drag? I used to. I’d slog through one “duty date” after another and wonder why nothing good was happening. Seriously! I needed to change my attitude. (Those poor guys) Luckily, I changed my ways by the time I met The Hubbs or he’d be another 1st date gone wrong! You’re more fun to be around when you’re having fun, so learn to bring the fun to dating. Try making a list of fun places you’d like to go or things you’d like to do. Get a makeover, some new clothes or get your hair done. Even a new pair of shoes puts a little spring in my step. Learn to be curious about people and genuinely interested in them and their lives. Cultivate this interest. Finally, remember that love is something your ARE, not something you seek out in the world. How can […]