breakups

February 1, 2017

The most important thing to do when your relationship ends

It’s over. You forgot how excruciating breakups are. The minute you open your eyes in the morning, the heaviness rushes back into your chest and it hurts so much that you can barely breathe. That is, if you’re lucky enough to be able to sleep at all. Almost everyone has this experience at least once. Life can be challenging and none of us gets through it without a few bruises. Unfortunately, heartache is part of the deal. If you’re going through this right now, first of all, I’m sorry and I’m sending you love. I know how it is and I’ve been there. That’s one of the reasons I do the work I do. One of the best things you can do for yourself and your future is to take the time to mourn your loss. A breakup is a real loss and it can be difficult to navigate in […]
July 26, 2018

Tips to Help You Heal

Are you working on healing something? I hear so much talk lately about people who are still healing from past relationships or old childhood wounds. I understand that excruciatingly painful things happen to people. Believe me, I’ve had more than a full helping of total nightmare in my life. I understand the need to heal, but letting it take over your life will not be helpful. Healing is a process that eventually comes to an end. You don’t want to be stuck in healing mode forever because you have a limited amount of time on this planet. Don’t you want to spend it having an amazing life? Do you really want to hide out in the name of healing while everyone else, including your ex, is going on happily about their business? I think not! Get out there and date again. Don’t use healing as an excuse. If you just went through a […]
October 17, 2018

Has Dating Made You Bitter?

Dating, and life in general, can deal some harsh blows. Pretty much everyone over the age of 20 has a right to be bitter! I know the kinds of things that can happen when you’re out there dating and it can be so heartbreaking! I’ve dealt with painful breakups, being ghosted, and long spells of first dates (and no dates). I’ve heard it all AND gone through much of it firsthand. Here’s the thing; being jaded and snarky doesn’t serve you and it’s definitely not any fun. Honestly, when’s the last time you saw a bitter person and thought, “Wow, I can’t wait to hang out with them.” Probably never. If you’d like to leave bitterness behind, take a look at the things that have caused you so much pain and ask yourself what belief is at the root of it. Do you believe that men only want one thing? […]
December 5, 2018

Do You Have Regrets?

When you think about your past, do you feel like you’ve lost something you can never get back? Or that there’s something you’ll never be able to fix? Whatever you’ve done or not done, whatever you’ve lost, you need to remember that nothing is permanent. You can choose to see any loss as a lesson that can benefit you in the future. Sometimes a loss creates an opportunity for something much better to enter your life. John Barrymore once said “A man is not too old until regrets take the place of dreams.” It’s completely up to you to choose to hold onto past regrets or to let them go and focus on your dreams. I urge you to spend zero time on regrets! Use your valuable time and brain power to focus on the life you want to create.  Until your regrets take the place of your dreams, you’re […]
April 17, 2019

What To Do If You’re Hurting

Are you hurting right now? Believe me, I’ve shed many tears over being dumped, ghosted, and led on. These things hurt! If you’re suffering today, I’m sending you the biggest hugs and my heart truly goes out to you. Here are some things you can do to learn everything possible from this experience so that you can minimize your chances of being in this situation again. First, please treat yourself with compassion. Don’t add to your pain by being hard on yourself. Give yourself the same kindness that you’d give to your beloved daughter or niece. Once you’ve done that, ask yourself these questions: What were the choices you made that resulted in the situation you’re in now? Did you choose to date a man that was unavailable? Were you hoping that something would change or improve if you continued to date him? Did you see a red flag that […]