best self

July 26, 2018

Giving Your Best Self

Are you a giving person? I’m not asking what you’re willing to give to others materially or financially. I’m talking about whether or not you’re the type of person who shows up and gives your best self to the world. Do you show up on dates from a place of giving? From a place of genuinely wanting to connect with another human being as opposed to looking to receive something from him? Waiting for someone to give you what you want is an entirely different energy and will produce a very different result. You’ve likely experienced this yourself in the dating world and it doesn’t feel good. Holding back a bit so that he can take the lead is fine, but once he does, be open and put yourself out there. Don’t play games to see if he really cares about you before you give him one little crumb of your attention. If you sit back and wait for him […]
July 26, 2018

Are You Hoping He’ll Change?

Are you trying to change the man you’re with? I’ve done it and you probably have too. You may have been on the other side of this as well, feeling like your man was trying to change you. If so, you know it doesn’t feel good. Here’s the deal; if you’re with someone you want to change, you either need to love and accept him as he is or move on to someone else whom you can accept. Nobody wants to be presented with a huge list of things they need to fix or change about themselves or to be treated as a “work in progress”. Everyone wants to be loved as they are. You are no exception; neither am I. It’s not fair to constantly fuss at a man to change, even if it’s “for his own good”. He doesn’t want to change and neither do you. Please love him […]
September 19, 2018

The Reason You’re Single

Could you be wrong about the reason you’re single? If you’ve been on your own for a long time, you probably have a lot of ideas about why you’re single. I know I did! Perhaps you think that men are shallow or intimidated by a smart, successful woman like you. Maybe you’re convinced that your size, age, or kids are keeping you alone. Ideas like this can keep you from putting yourself out there and making an attempt to find love. I’d like to challenge you to test them out and see if they’re true. Kind of like a dating science experiment if you will. Look at other women around you. Not everyone who is happily paired up is a size 2 or a supermodel. Many happily married women are just as brilliant and successful as you are. Take some time to study what other women who are in love and […]
September 26, 2018

What’s Been Holding You Back from Finding Love

Do you feel that something’s been holding you back from finding love? I have SO been there. I know what it’s like to be single for years on end and feel incredibly frustrated at the apparent lack of good men. Consider that you have more influence on this situation than you think you do, and it starts in your very own mind. Here’s how: You LOVE being right. About everything. It’s OK, so do I. Just ask my husband how much I love to be right, he’ll tell you! That’s just how our brains are wired – we all love being right. But your desire to be right could be costing you a lot. It could be costing you the opportunity to have love in your life. When you have a belief, your brain works to find evidence to prove it’s true. In doing this, you will actually create the […]
October 3, 2018

Are You Bad at Relationships?

Are you bad at relationships? I definitely used to be. In fact, I believe I was the QUEEN of being bad at relationships. For many years I couldn’t get a relationship to last longer than a month – if that. It was so discouraging and I thought it was a lost cause. There I was, Miss “Bad at relationships”. But being bad at relationships isn’t something that just happens to you. You weren’t born bad at relationships. You weren’t born knowing how to do very much of anything at all.  So if you’re bad at relationships, you learned how to be bad at them. The good news is that you can now learn how to be good at them. There are so many resources available to you so that you can learn to be great at relationships. You can take classes, work with a coach, read books, or watch YouTube […]