Do you always end up dating the wrong people? Did you just break up with another narcissist or player? Are you hanging in there with someone you hope will change? Have you decided to take a break from dating because it’s been so painful and the same things keep happening in all of your relationships?
I want you to find someone who’s wonderful for you and to have the loving relationship you deserve. That means not spending one more minute where you are, so let’s begin.
The first step is to take responsibility for where you are in your life right now. If you’re in a situation that makes you miserable, get out as soon as possible. Finally, learn how to make better choices so that you never wind up in a bad situation again. Then you can finally move on to something better.
This first point may sting a bit, but if you take it to heart, you’ll be on your way to a much better future. You’re the common denominator in all of your relationships. You were there for all of them and you’re the one who chose to stay for as long as you did.
I know this can be hard to accept, but I hope that you’ll stay with me, because if you can embrace this idea and work with it, it’ll change your life forever.
While it’s tempting to believe that it’s all your ex’s fault, that he was just a horrible human being, the fact is that you chose to be in a relationship with him.
You can always make a new choice instead of blaming him and hoping he’ll change.
The minute you see that someone is a narcissist, player, alcoholic, whatever your favorite poison is, leave. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.
If you learn to walk away from these situations quickly and stop dating the wrong people, you’ll never have this experience again.
Once you do leave, take the time to think about what happened. When did you realize things weren’t going well? Why did you stay? Was there a time when you saw a red flag and chose to ignore it? Have these types of relationships been a pattern for you?
Instead of hoping that the next person you meet will be better, spend some time looking at why you chose to tolerate this situation. If you do this, you’ll be much more likely to have a better relationship next time.
Finally, when you do decide to date again, date different types of people. Try to keep an open mind. The people you feel instant chemistry with are probably not the ones you want to go with.
Think about the kind of relationship you want to have and the qualities your potential partner should possess. Then vet people for these qualities. Ask questions. Don’t just rely on charm and chemistry.
Take the time to really get to know a person before becoming seriously involved.
You’ll never complain about dating the wrong people again because you’ll be too busy having a great time with a man who treats you better.
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