Finding love

May 10, 2015

Moms need love too

Happy Mother’s Day!   I’d like to say thank you to moms everywhere for all you do. I’ve had many jobs in my life, and none of them was tougher than being a single mother to four children. If you’re a single mom who wants to find someone special, I’ve been in your shoes and today’s post is especially for you and packed with tons of love. Just because you’re a single mom doesn’t mean that you can’t have love. I’m not going to lie and tell you that it will be easy. You know that being a mom is not easy. It is possible for you to have love though, and I don’t want you to wait until after your kids are grown to pursue it. Being a mom is an enormous responsibility and usually comes with a heavy dose of guilt if we ever dare to put ourselves […]
May 18, 2015

Are you holding out for a fairy tale?

Love is such an emotional area of life. It doesn’t easily lend itself to cold hard facts or scientific research. We resist being pragmatic when it comes to love, preferring instead to believe in magic and all things romantic. Love can be magical, but counting on magic to bring someone into your life is problematic. When a belief is keeping what you want most away from you, it’s time to question it. Love is one of the few areas in life where we are actually encouraged to have unrealistic expectations. One of the most harmful of these is the belief that love is supposed to just happen and if you do anything to help it along you are desperate and somehow less of a woman. This has to stop! This myth is keeping you alone and stuck and I will not stand for it. You would never lock yourself in […]
July 5, 2015

You Are Love

I just read an angst-filled article written by a woman who is obviously intelligent, accomplished, and self-aware. In it, she outlined how she is much more concerned with a man being good enough for her than in making herself good enough for him. I commend her for her determination not to settle and to continue to hold out for someone who makes her happy. I’m not a fan of settling by any means. It’s just that she sounds kind of pissed. The search for love can be frustrating and fraught with all sorts of disappointments. When we come from a lonesome, angst-filled place it’s easy to start feeling angry. Whether justified or not, anger is not attractive. Love is not waiting for you to find it, hiding from you in the form of some man who won’t call you or commit to a relationship. Love is not “out there”. Love […]
July 12, 2015

Are you in a fantasy relationship?

There’s a special guy in your life. Sort of in your life. You see him all the time. He’s the one you want. He’s attractive, accomplished, and he likes you. At least it seems like he likes you. After all, he smiles at you. He hugs you sometimes and says nice things to you. He’s never really asked you out though. You seem to just “hang out”. Sometimes. If any of this sounds familiar, you may be caught up in a fantasy relationship. These relationships will never progress beyond your romantic imagination. They’ve been known to soak up years of a single girl’s life and end up nowhere. If you ever want to have a real relationship, the kind with a loving man in your arms, you need to get a serious dose of reality. You’ve come to the right place. A fantasy relationship keeps you alone. You just know […]
August 17, 2015

How to help Mr. Right find you

You’d really like to find your Mr. Right. You’ve been looking for a while. Where is he anyway? You’re starting to feel a bit impatient and wondering if he’s ever going to show up. It’d be great if he sauntered up to you the next time you’re out with the girls, but don’t be discouraged if that doesn’t happen. Many times, finding the right guy takes a bit more effort than just showing up in public places and looking good. If you’re ready to meet someone and it’s not happening naturally, it’s time to give nature a helping hand. The three best ways to meet a quality man are to create an online profile, interact with others at social events, and to be friendly when going about your life. Online dating is huge. Numbers don’t lie. A recent study said that over one third of marriages began with an online […]