October 9, 2019

Is Self Care Keeping You Single?

So many women get discouraged with dating and say they need to take a break. I understand completely! Dating can be brutal, especially if you’re just winging it and hoping for the best. But the “take a break” strategy is totally ineffective. Think about it, do you take a break from the gym and hope you’ll be in better shape in a few months? No! The mere passage of time does nothing to change the results you’re going to get. If you want a different result, you need to learn how to make it happen. So, what do you really want from dating? How will you use your time away from the dating scene to learn how to get what you want? What will you do differently next time? This is the ultimate self-care, because it’s having your own back instead of checking out on yourself. It’s hard, but it’s […]
October 2, 2019

You’re Not That Into You

Do the guys who really like you turn you off? Are you constantly finding things you don’t like about them? Picking them apart and going for the guys who are more standoffish instead? I used to do this all the time. I remember a really nice guy taking his jacket off on our first date and being turned off because it wasn’t lined! Seriously! I knew that I was being ridiculous, but I couldn’t stop myself. And that’s how I kept ending up with one emotionally unavailable man after another for years. The next time a guy is excited about you and it grosses you out, ask yourself why. Why can’t you take it in? Spend some time with yourself and listen long enough to hear the answer. To learn more, check out this video! Ready to stop leaving your love life to chance? Drop me a line to schedule […]
September 25, 2019

You Need a Good Mate, Not a Good Date

Are you great at dating? What makes someone a great date? Being smooth, saying the right things, having “game”? Those things come with practice, lots of practice. The more dates you go on, the higher your chances of being good at dating. Good relationship skills come from being in long term relationships, not from dating. You get better at things that you spend lots of time doing. So the guy who’s a great date may not necessarily have the best relationship skills. And the guy who’s a keeper in the relationship department may not be the best date. He may not know all the hot spots in town or dress to the nines. But he may know how to comfort you when you’re having a bad day, make up after a fight or not need to get his own way all the time. You get to decide what’s important to […]
September 18, 2019

Do You Think He’s The Only Guy For You?

Is there a man in your life? Or sort of in your life, but not really? A guy who’s so amazing and perfect for you, but he doesn’t know it yet? If only he’d come to his senses and realize how amazing you are and how perfect you’d be together, then everything would be fine. So, you bide your time. You refuse to date other men. Or maybe you go on some dates, but your heart’s not in it because no one measures up to this guy. Can I get an “Amen”? I did this for YEARS. Needless to say, none of those guys turned out to be my husband. It’s tough to see this kind of dynamic for what it is, but I encourage you to do everything you can to break free of this. Your life, and the possibility of meeting a guy who’s really into you, are […]
September 11, 2019

Are You Trying to Stifle Your Heart’s Desire for Love?

Do you wish that you didn’t want to find someone? Are you trying to push down the pangs of loneliness with work, friends, or general badassery? Does it sometimes seem weak to you even to want a man to share your life with? You’re independent, brilliant and have everything you need. Isn’t love one of those fluffy things that is nice if you can get it? Definitely not a need. I sooo get it. I used to resent any implication that I might “need” a man. That was for weaklings and I was too strong for that nonsense. I didn’t need anyone. But I was wrong. I did need love and human connection. We all do. And it’s OK. To learn more, check out this video! Ready to stop leaving your love life to chance? Drop me a line to schedule a complimentary discovery call with me!