Why can’t I connect with anyone?? If this is something you’ve been wondering, you’re not alone. I asked myself this question so many times when I was single. I’ve been on hundreds of dates (yes, really), and I have plenty of experience that you can now benefit from. So why, in a world with so many people, websites, and dating apps, are you not connecting with ANYONE? And what can you do about it? First, use your own inner wisdom. Sit down and think about what could possibly be causing you not to connect with anyone. What does your profile look like? Is it dismissive of others as actual humans? Is it a rant or a list of non-desirable traits that you’re not looking for? Did you feel compelled to write “NO HOOKUPS”? How are you showing up in your messages, conversations, and on dates? Do you scroll through dating […]
Who are you becoming in your journey to find love? Are you allowing this experience to help you grow or are you gritting your teeth and hoping that it’s over as soon as possible? What are you learning about yourself and others through the dating process? I truly believe that in my own (very long) search for a life partner, I evolved to become a version of myself who could actually have the great relationship I’m in now. I listened to a podcast recently about how babies learn to walk. As they take their first steps, they – inevitably – fall down, but each time they fall, they get back up. They keep doing this until they’re finally able to walk. It is the very act of falling and getting up over and over again that builds the strength to walk. So keep getting up. Each time you struggle or […]
Do you often find that the guys you like don’t want to date you but the guys you’re not attracted to won’t leave you alone? I’ve SO been there and it can be incredibly frustrating. This kind of dynamic can become a very insidious way of keeping yourself single for a long time. You may think that this is the way it always works out for you or that you’re unlucky in love, but I want you to pretend, just for a moment, that this is simply a habit that you can change. Because, it is. Grab a pen and and write about the last three guys you were attracted to who didn’t return your interest. Take your time and write down everything you remember about them. What did they have in common with each other? Next, do the same thing with the last three men who were attracted to […]
Who do you turn to for dating advice? If you’re anything like I was, you turn to your friends, family, or co-workers. This can be a problem. Maybe they’ve been married since college, haven’t dated recently, or just don’t feel comfortable giving you the honest feedback you need if you’re to be successful. You may get some good advice from others, but it’s more likely that you’re spinning your wheels. It’s so important to seek advice from someone who has achieved the results you’re wanting. To learn more, check out this video! Ready to stop leaving your love life to chance? Click here to apply for a complimentary discovery call with me!
When I was single, my coach asked me, “What would you do right now, if you knew that a year from today, you’d be exactly where you want to be?” This question really stuck with me. I still use it on myself when I’m feeling lost. So how about you? If you knew for sure that you’d be happily in love, married, wherever it is that you want to be, what would you do right now? How would you act? Would you show up differently in the world? To make this even more exciting, take out your pen and write it down. Keep it with you and read it often. How would feel waking up next to the man of your dreams? What would your dream life look? If you knew it was a done deal, would you chill out? Forgive your ex? Stop freaking out every time some guy […]