July 8, 2020

Why Getting Him to Chase You is Not The Goal

Do you think that a guy will chase you if he’s really interested in you? I used to. But setting up a dynamic like this sends most decent men running for the hills. They know when you’re playing games. The men most likely to tolerate this type of behavior are players who are seeking a conquest, not a partner. What to do instead? Return his interest, respond when he reaches out, and act like you like him! You don’t need to chase him, but it’s fine to let him know that you care. An emotionally available man won’t waste time chasing a woman who’s playing games, so don’t do it. To learn more, check out this video!   Ready to stop leaving your love life to chance? Drop me a line to schedule a complimentary discovery call with me!
July 1, 2020

Do You Know What Roaching Is?

I am, shall we say, past a certain age, so I’m always amused when something is called new just because it has a new name. “Roaching” is one of those things. It’s a new term for an old practice that has caused much angst over the years. It’s essentially failing to discuss monogamy or lack thereof, with the people one is seeing, leaving things to chance, and then being surprised when it turns out that he or she is seeing other people. Not very romantic, but hey, it is called “roaching”. Dating can seem overwhelming with all these scary new things, but never fear. Few of them are really all that new, and with some good dating practices, most of the difficulties can be minimized or avoided altogether. Roaching, and many other complications, can be nixed by having an honest conversation early on with everyone you date. Find out what […]
June 24, 2020

Are You Seeing The Wrong Red Flags?

There is much concern about red flags in today’s dating environment. It’s common to feel cautious, especially if dating has been challenging or disappointing more often than not. But in our zeal to avoid bad experiences, it’s possible to go too far the other way. Some things can be off-putting, but they aren’t red flags. And just because you’re not used to something doesn’t make it a red flag. Using a term of endearment is not a red flag. Neither is wanting to meet in person or being excited about someone. Talking about oneself in the hopes of impressing a date may be a bit off-putting, but it is not a red flag. Red flags are a thing. I’m not suggesting that you make excuses for someone who treats you poorly. But be cautious of calling something a red flag just because you don’t especially like it or find it […]
June 17, 2020

Are You Afraid to Act Like You Like Him?

Sometimes dating is downright hard. What should you wear? How much should you flirt? Did you laugh too loud at his joke? You want to be a good first date, but not too good because maybe that’s leading him on. And what if you’re not feeling it? At least not yet. Consider this; most guys won’t even call after a first date if they don’t think you liked them. And most women take more than one date to know if they like him. There is no harm whatsoever in just having a good time. Be warm and friendly. Like you would with an honest-to-goodness friend. This is way more fun and you’ll get asked out on more second dates. Then you can decide if you like him enough to go on a third, or a fourth or be his girlfriend. But you’ll never have the chance to do any of […]
June 10, 2020

Are You a Great Catch?

Do you have an impressive job title? A boatload of stamps on your passport? Are you a triathlete? These things are amazing, and I hope you enjoy them immensely. But they won’t get you married. Most men don’t care nearly as much about these things as you do. Men want you to be impressed with them, not the other way around. They want to be your hero. They want to feel warm in your presence, hold your hand, and feel attracted to you. This is great news if you don’t have a list of “impressive” qualities, because you don’t need them. And if you do have these things, that’s wonderful too, just don’t make the mistake of thinking they’ll get you a “better” man. To learn more, check out this video!   Ready to stop leaving your love life to chance? Drop me a line to schedule a complimentary discovery […]